The Cost of Success: What Price Are You Paying?

Anything worth having comes with a cost. How do you know when the price you’re paying is too high? This week we’re going to get real with ourselves and get super honest about how we’re living.

I know many people who have all the trappings of success … the mega-mansion, the vacation homes, the shiny cars, the designer labels, but feel empty on the inside.

I know people who have millions in their bank accounts but no time to spend it.

I know people who are working so much they miss their kids’ games.

I know people who have plowed their way to the top but admit trampling on others to get there and not feeling good about it.

I know someone who owned nine Porsches (yes, all at the same time), and was miserable on the inside.

I know people who are ridiculously credentialed but can’t find fulfillment.

And I say all of the above with no judgment whatsoever. I built a 12,000 square foot custom home, only to realize that was not at all what I wanted. I sold it and started this business two months later, and have never been happier.

How Do You Measure Success?

What does success mean to you? And how do you measure it?

Success means different things to different people, and the fun part is crafting your own definition.

The issue is that society conditions us to measure success a certain way. We’re trained to think that success is linked to earthly measures such as: the size of our bank account, our titles, credentials, material possessions, the corner office, and other physical worldly stuff.

I feel most successful when I’m serving others and having fun along the way.  

Is It Worth It?

The rubber really meets the road when we get super honest with ourselves and ask ourselves what price we are paying for the level of success and if it’s worth it.

If your personal relationships are in shambles, it’s not worth it.

If you’re stressed and exhausted, it’s not worth it.

If you’re not taking care of yourself, it’s not worth it.

If you’re not feeling amazing every single day, it’s not worth it.

If you aren’t in love with life, it’s not worth it.

If you’re not waking up before your alarm goes off because you’re so freakin’ excited about the day ahead, it’s not worth it (okay, maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but you get the idea!).

You Can Have It All

The good news is that you can absolutely have it all. The universe wants us to have it all. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy ridiculous levels of abundance. But the trick is to figure out how to get there, all while truly enjoying life along the way and soaking up as much depth, meaning and purpose as we can.

And what’s more, beyond just YOU having it all, we can ALL have it all. That is not a zero-sum game. There is plenty of everything to go around.

You can have as much love and joy and freedom and abundance and peace on an unlimited basis if you approach life by letting your spirit lead the way.

Start at the End

In my coaching, a question I ask my clients early on is, “How do you want people to remember you?” I can tell you that the responses never sound like, “I want people to remember that I drove a fancy car”. Or “I want people to remember that I was the top salesperson”. Or “I want people to remember that I only wore designer labels”. Or “I want people to remember that I started five companies.”

Responses always sound like “I want to be remembered as a kind person.” “I want to be remembered as a family person.” “I want to be remembered as someone who helped other people.” “I want to be remembered as someone who made the world a better place.”

You see, it always goes back to the human spirit. When we start at the end, we gain a new perspective and anchor on qualities that appeal to the eternal part of our being, our soul.

How Do You Get There?

Let your soul lead the way.

Questions you can start asking yourself RIGHT NOW

  • How do I define a successful life?
  • Am I happy with how I’m showing up in my life … as a friend, partner, parent, leader, and other roles in my life?
  • If today were my last day, do I feel good about how I have lived my life?

And the million-dollar question is …

What price am I paying for my success, and am I okay with that?

It is truly an honor and a privilege to serve my family, clients, community, and the greater good in the way that I do. Thank you for being on this journey with me.

If you decide that the cost you’re paying for success is too high, let’s chat. You deserve the best of the best in every aspect of your life.