What Do You Really Want?

Do you ever feel like you’re drifting along, living your life according to somebody else’s dream?

Do you ever feel like you’re trying to satisfy social expectations?

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in the shallow end, and not finding any deep fulfillment?

Do you ever feel like it’s been a while since you checked in with yourself about what matters most to you?

Do you ever feel like what you think you want and the choices you’re making for yourself are out of whack?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above, let’s do something about that.

Reflect on this question for a moment:

What do you really want?

This is a deep question, I know.  And one that you shouldn’t expect to have an answer for without some deep thought.

To help you zero in on that, here are a few more layers to reflect on:

What is important to you? What are your core values? What do you believe in? What lights you up? Who do you stand for?

Once you can identify what it is you truly want, you can bring everything else into alignment… your beliefs, your words, your actions, and design your life around that.

Designing a life you love is no weekend project, and takes a boatload of soul work.  But take it from one who has done it, and is refining it on a daily basis – it’s so worth every ounce of the effort.

Here are some considerations as you think about what you really want, and make choices that support it:

1.) Think big

We live in a world where anything is possible, so understand that you have the creative license to design your life any way you want it to look. 

Ditch the black and white thinking rooted in limitation and fear, which will only keep you stuck, and disallow you from exploring a whole new reality.

Embrace the world of abundance, anticipation, expansion, and have faith that the universe will always support you.

There’s a huge opportunity here to step into the energy of creation and focus on possibilities – if you don’t like the options in front of you, stretch yourself to think of new possibilities.

2.) Let your soul lead the way

Nobody ever made a bad decision when they let their soul lead the way.

This takes some deep connecting with yourself, but with intention and consistency, you can tap into your intuition and let your spirit guide you.

There are so many ways to connect to your authentic self, your soul: spending time in nature, deep breathing, relaxing, meditating, listening to music, and getting comfortable with just being.

3.) Identify what you don’t want

What doesn’t get you excited?  What isn’t in line with your core values?  What are you not passionate about?  What doesn’t come naturally to you?

Eliminate unnecessary day-to-day pressure, noise and distractions, and anything else that doesn’t move you forward.

Whatever it is, if it doesn’t move you in the direction you want to go, it needs to be minimized or eliminated altogether.

4.) Think differently

One of my favorite Albert Einstein quotes is “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”

It really does speak to the importance of growth in a big way.

The reality is that all of the same mental models, behaviors, choices, people in our lives that got us to where we are, won’t be the same ones to get us to where we are going.  As we graduate through the levels of consciousness, we have to accept that not everyone and everything can come with us.

You’ll need to build a new world with a growth-based foundation across all aspects of your life, and your mindset plays a huge role in this.

5.) Manifest

Manifestation is the art of co-creating with the universe.  Envision your new reality, and hand it over to the universe to figure out all the details. 

Know that you don’t have to have the “how” all figured out.  Give the universe the space and the license to surprise you, and be ready to receive what it has in store.

Trust that what you get will always be at least as good as what you wanted for yourself, and oftentimes, better.

What sets my soul on fire is helping people design lives they’re in love with.  If you’d like help with that, grab a time here: