“When you try your best, but you don’t succeed

When you get what you want, but not what you need

When you feel so tired, but you can’t sleep

Stuck in reverse” – Coldplay

Maybe you feel like you’re stuck in reverse.  Maybe you feel like you’re at rock bottom.

Call it what you will; we’ve all been there.  And for many of us, more than once.

Rewind to August 2017.  I was in the middle of one of my rock bottoms.

I was at Soldier Field in Chicago on a gorgeous summer night with 64,000 other Coldplay fans about ten rows away from Chris Martin himself.  

The energy was electric.  

The evening looked glitzy from the outside, I’m aware.  But on the inside, it took every ounce of effort I had in me to hold myself back from bursting into tears at any moment for no reason at all.

Well, not for no reason.  Five months prior, my marriage crumbled, and I was in the middle of my divorce.

My thoughts were swirling. 

What will my next chapter look like?  How will I pick up the pieces and move forward?  What am I feeling called to do?

Annnnnnd then they played “Fix You.”  Cue the waterworks.

Really, Coldplay?  Really?  You had to play this right now?

“Lights will guide you home.  And ignite your bones.  And I will try to fix you.”

It was at that moment that I got a message of clarity on my spiritual calling.

I’m going to help people reach their true potential, I thought to myself.

But with one caveat.

I can’t fix you.  Only you can fix you.  But I will guide you as you fix yourself.

Quick disclaimer: You don’t need fixing.  You never needed to be fixed.  You’re not broken.  You’re not stuck.  You’re just being reminded that you’re here to do great things.

There is only one thing in this world that will lead you to what you want, and that’s light.  Oh, and love.  When you focus on those, everything else follows.

Thank you, Coldplay.  Thank you, universe.  And thank you to every single life experience I’ve had that’s helped me create a reality far beyond my wildest dreams.

Be open to when and where you get the answers you’re seeking.  Sometimes we find them in unexpected places.

Allow your life experiences to shape you.  Allow them to mold you.  Believe that your life experiences are there to serve you.  Let them inspire you to dig deep.  Lean into the lessons.  

Allow yourself to be cracked open.  The light can’t enter unless there are cracks.

Trust yourself.  Trust the universe.  Trust the process.

There’s always, always, a golden thread running through your life experiences that tie them together in a meaningful way.  Finding the meaning is what gives your life purpose.

Sometimes it takes another person who brings a new perspective, a deep understanding of universal laws, and an unwavering commitment to help.  I sought out people to help me find the light, and I’d love to be that person for you.  

If this article resonated with you in any way, if you’re inspired to reach out, or if you’re inspired to share it with someone, even if you can’t put your finger on the “why,” let’s chat.